Wednesday, September 19, 2012

There Will Always be Mean Girls


If you've been reading  The One Year Devotions for Girls Starring Women of the Bible, you're just finishing up the Old Testament Women. The last few devotions have been summaries of the lessons learned from many of the women.

One of them is There Will Always be Mean Girls. Isn't that the truth? It was true in Bible times, true when I was in school, true now. There will always be girls who look for someone to make fun of, who laugh at other people's clothes, hair, you name it. Girls who make fun of the disabled or anyone who is different in any way.  
It's more frustrating watching some of my children be victims than it was to be made fun of myself.

Here's the September 17 devo about it.



There Will Always Be Mean Girls
     Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. Ephesians 4:3
     Brooke hid in a stall in the girl's bathroom at school, trying to avoid Sierra. On the first day of school Brooke had accidentally bumped into Sierra, making her drop her books. That same day she and Sierra both tried out for the volleyball team. Brooke made the team but Sierra didn't. Four weeks into school Sierra and her group were still going out of their way to be mean to Brooke. They made fun of her clothes, her hair, the way she walked—anything they could think of. Brooke looked forward to volleyball practice at the end of the day. That was one time when Sierra and her clones couldn't bother Brooke.
     There have always been mean girls, and unfortunately there probably always will be. As long as there are comparisons, jealousy and rivalry, there will be girls who are anger and bitter. Bible women weren't much different. When Hagar got pregnant after Sarah couldn't, she taunted Sarah. Sarah reacted by treating her unkindly, causing Hagar to run away.
     Jacob was tricked into marrying Leah when it was Rachel he loved.  That caused all sorts of problems. Leah was plain and unloved, but she had baby after baby. Rachel was beautiful and was loved by Jacob, but she couldn't have children. Comparisons and jealousy between the sisters strained their relationship.
     Elkanah had two wives—Hannah and Peninnah. He loved Hannah more, but just like Rachel, she couldn't have children. Peninnah could, and she made fun of Hannah because of it.
     Mean girls grow into mean women and make life miserable for those around them. You can't change them, but you can change how you respond to them. Ask God to give you the grace to ignore them and to see them as girls in need of God's love and forgiveness.      
Is there a mean girl in your life? How do you react to her? What changes do you need to make? How can you make an effort to be united "binding yourselves together with peace"?

If you're dealing with a mean girl, or have in the past, leave a comment. We've all been there.